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  • How Firewalking Rewires Your Brain to Turn Fear Into Drive

    How Firewalking Rewires Your Brain to Turn Fear Into Drive

    At some point in life, everyone hits a mental wall. Whether it’s career burnout, fear of failure, or a lingering sense of self-doubt, the biggest obstacles standing between where you are and where you want to be are rarely physical—they are psychological.

    Enter firewalking.

    While stepping barefoot onto a bed of burning embers glowing at 1,000°F (537°C) sounds like an act reserved for ancient rituals or extreme daredevils, it has become one of the most effective personal development tools in modern history.

    How does walking on fire transform your motivation? Here is the science, psychology, and practical impact of using firewalking as a catalyst for breakthrough performance.

    What is Firewalking?

    Firewalking is the practice of walking barefoot across a bed of burning coals or embers. Culturally, it dates back thousands of years across Asia, Europe, and Polynesia as a religious rite of passage or healing ritual.

    In the 1980s, self-improvement pioneers brought firewalking into mainstream personal development. Today, it is widely utilized in executive coaching, team-building events, and motivational seminars around the world.

    How Firewalking Drives Unstoppable Motivation

    Motivation isn’t just a feeling; it’s a decision backed by belief. Firewalking directly targets the limiting beliefs that paralyze action.

    1. It Rewires Your Brain’s Fear Response

    Fear is the single biggest killer of motivation. When faced with a major risk—like starting a business, changing careers, or asking for a raise—your brain categorizes the unknown as danger.

    Firewalking forces you to confront a primary biological instinct: do not step into fire. When you take that first step and reach the other side unharmed, you create a massive cognitive shift. Your brain realizes that just because something feels terrifying doesn’t mean it is impossible.

    2. It Destroys Limiting Beliefs Instantly

    Most self-limiting beliefs (“I’m not smart enough,” “I’m bad at public speaking,” “I can’t handle failure”) build up over years. Reading a book or listening to a podcast helps, but experiential learning acts like a sledgehammer to those walls.

    Completing a firewalk provides immediate, undeniable proof that your mind can override perceived physical and psychological limits.

    3. It Teaches the Power of Focus and State

    In firewalking, your internal state matters. If you walk onto the coals timidly, hesitating with every step, you increase your risk of getting burned. Success requires:

    • Decisive vision: Eyes focused on the target (the cool grass at the end).
    • Positive self-talk: Replacing “I can’t” with “Step, step, cool moss.”
    • Peak physiology: Moving with purpose and confidence.

    This exact framework applies to any goal. When you learn to control your mental state under high pressure, staying motivated during everyday life challenges becomes effortless.

    The Science: Why Don’t Your Feet Burn?

    The magic of firewalking lies in a combination of physics and focus:

    1. Poor Thermal Conductivity: Wood embers are poor conductors of heat compared to metals.
    2. Short Contact Time: Firewalkers move briskly, meaning feet touch the hot coals for only a fraction of a second.
    3. Ash Insulation: A layer of ash often acts as a temporary protective barrier over the hot coals.

    While the physics explains why it’s physically possible, the true challenge remains 100% mental. Recognizing the science doesn’t make stepping onto glowing red embers any less terrifying—overcoming that fear is where the breakthrough happens.

    How to Anchor Your Firewalk Experience for Long-Term Success

    The high from a firewalk can last for days, but real motivation requires long-term application. To turn a firewalk into lasting life changes:

    • Create a Visual Anchor: Take a picture or keep a small piece of charcoal from your walk. Place it on your desk as a physical reminder of what you are capable of overcoming.
    • Identify Your Next “Bed of Coals”: What is one task or goal you’ve been avoiding out of fear? Schedule it immediately while your confidence is high.
    • Adopt the “Firewalk Stance”: Whenever anxiety strikes, recreate the posture, breathing, and focus you used right before stepping onto the fire.

    Final Thoughts: What Fire Lies in Front of You?

    Firewalking isn’t really about the fire. It’s about who you become when you decide to step through the fear.

    Once you’ve walked across glowing coals, the “scary” emails, tough sales calls, and difficult life decisions suddenly don’t seem so daunting. If you are looking to unlock a new level of drive, confidence, and peak performance, stepping onto the coals might be the exact spark you need.

    Have you ever participated in a firewalk, or would you try one to boost your motivation? Let me know in the comments below!

    The Norval’s go firewalking

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  • How to Stay Positive in a Negative World

    How to Stay Positive in a Negative World

    Staying positive can be difficult, especially when the world around us seems to be filled with so much negativity. But it is important to remember that our thoughts and attitudes have a big impact on our happiness and well-being. When we choose to focus on the positive, we are more likely to experience positive emotions and attract positive experiences into our lives.

    Here are some tips on how to stay positive in a negative world:

    1. Start your day with a positive mindset. When you wake up in the morning, take a few minutes to focus on the positive things in your life. Think about the people you love, the things you are grateful for, and the things you are looking forward to.
    2. Surround yourself with positive people. The people you spend time with have a big impact on your mood and outlook on life. Make sure to spend time with people who uplift you and make you feel good about yourself.
    3. Focus on the things you can control. There are many things in life that we cannot control, but we can control our own thoughts, actions, and reactions. Focus on the things that you can control and let go of the things that you cannot.
    4. Practice gratitude. Taking the time to appreciate the good things in your life can help to boost your mood and outlook. Make a habit of writing down a few things you are grateful for each day.
    5. Do things that make you happy. Make sure to schedule time for activities that you enjoy doing. This could include spending time with loved ones, pursuing your hobbies, or simply relaxing and taking some time for yourself.
    6. Challenge negative thoughts. When you have a negative thought, challenge it. Ask yourself if there is any evidence to support the thought. If there is not, then replace it with a more positive thought.
    7. Forgive yourself and others. Everyone makes mistakes. Holding on to anger and resentment will only bring you down. Learn to forgive yourself and others so that you can move on and live a happier life.
    8. Help others. Helping others is a great way to feel good about yourself and make a difference in the world. Find a cause that you are passionate about and volunteer your time and energy.
    9. Take care of yourself. Eating healthy, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly are all important for your physical and mental health. When you take care of yourself, you are better equipped to handle life’s challenges and stay positive.
    10. Seek professional help if needed. If you are struggling to stay positive, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A therapist can teach you coping skills and help you to develop a more positive outlook on life.

    Here are some additional tips that may help you to stay positive in a negative world:

    • Find your purpose. Having a sense of purpose in life can give you a sense of direction and motivation. It can also help you to stay positive during difficult times.
    • Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment without judgment. It can help you to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings, and to let go of negative thoughts.
    • Meditate. Meditation is a great way to relax and de-stress. It can also help you to develop a more positive mindset.
    • Spend time in nature. Spending time in nature has been shown to have a number of health benefits, including reducing stress and improving mood.
    • Listen to music. Listening to music that you enjoy can help to improve your mood and boost your energy levels.
    • Laugh. Laughter is a great way to reduce stress and improve your mood. Make sure to laugh every day, even if it’s just a little bit.

    Staying positive in a negative world can be challenging, but it is possible. By following these tips, you can develop a more positive mindset and attract positive experiences into your life.

  • Exploring the Mysterious World of the Paranormal

    From stories of supernatural creatures to unexplained phenomena, the paranormal realm has been a source of fascination for centuries. It is a world full of mystery and intrigue, and those who explore its depths are often rewarded with an experience unlike any other. This article will explore the mysterious world of the paranormal, delving into the history and science behind it, and offering a peek into the realm of the unknown.

    Unveiling the Mysticism of the Unknown

    The paranormal has been a part of human culture since ancient times, with stories of supernatural creatures and unexplained phenomena that have been passed down through generations. It has been a source of fascination for many, with people eager to explore its depths and uncover its mysteries. From the ancient gods of the Greeks and Romans, to the ghosts and monsters of our own time, the paranormal has always been a source of wonder and intrigue.

    Peeking Into the Paranormal Realm

    The paranormal realm is a fascinating place, and those who explore it are often rewarded with a unique experience. From ghost hunting and paranormal investigations, to psychics and mediums, there are many ways to peek into the world of the unknown. With the help of modern technology, it is now possible to capture evidence of the paranormal, such as photographs and recordings, giving us a glimpse into a world that was once thought to be impossible.

    The paranormal is an intriguing and often mysterious world, one that has captivated the imaginations of people for centuries. From ancient stories and myths, to modern investigations and technology, the world of the paranormal is full of surprises and rewards those who take the time to explore it. Whether you’re a believer or a skeptic, the paranormal is sure to provide an experience unlike any other.

  • Stress during Covid 19 Pandemic

    Stress during Covid 19 Pandemic

    The corona virus hit our shores here in South Africa in March 2020. At the time of writing this article it has been with us for 16 months. The stress levels during covid 19 are starting to show in many peoples lives.

    What does Covid 19 stand for

    ‘CO’ stands for CORONA, ‘VI’ for Virus and ‘D’ for disease. CoronaVirus Disease of 2019 hence the name COVID 19. The virus originated in Wuhan City, China.

    The Third Wave

    We here in South Africa are experiencing our third wave which seems to have reached its peak. For me it has been the most devastating wave so far. We have lost friends and Acquaintances and know of many people amongst our family and friends that have thankfully recovered.

    Stress during covid 19 pandemic

    Much of the nation may not have caught the actual virus but the Covid 19 virus has affected many peoples lives. So we can say that many, although not ill, suffer from the virus. This in my mind presents itself as stress.

    I think we all feel the added stress caused by this pandemic. We are bombarded daily via social media and the news on deaths and other disturbing facts caused by the covid 19 virus.

    What is stress

    Stress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand or threat. When you sense danger, whether it’s real or imagined, the body’s defenses kick into high gear in a rapid, automatic process known as the “fight or flight” reaction or the “stress response.”

    During a normal Stressful situation the bodies nervous system releases stress hormones including adrenalin and cortisol. These hormones help the body react to any threat by increasing strength, sharpening your senses, raising your blood pressure and tightening your muscles.

    This is all great when it does not last long and the body can return to its normal state.

    Long term or chronic stress

    When these stressors that cause the stress hormones to be released are always present it can have adverse effects on the body. Long term exposure to cortisol and adrenalin puts you at risk to health and mental problems like:

    • Depression
    • headaches
    • heart disease and high blood pressure
    • Sleeping problems
    • memory and concentration problems
    • muscle tension
    • aggressiveness

    There are more I’m sure but these are the symptoms I see in people around me. I too suffer from this long term Stress during Covid 19 pandemic.

    Personally I battle with falling asleep with my thoughts constantly running around in circles with everything that is going on around me. I worry about the health and wellbeing of my family and friends.

    After the untimely passing of one of my wife’s and my dearest friends things became very real. She tested positive for covid 19 and a few days later she was gone.

    Further causes of stress

    There has been many people in South Africa that have lost their jobs. This being due to the Covid 19 lockdowns which has caused many companies to close or to retrench staff.

    Families have no income and they have to rely on the generosity of others to see them through these hardships. Can you imagine the stress these people are going through.

    Then we had the looting that happened in Natal and certain parts of Gauteng. Businesses were looted, destroyed and some even burnt down. The job losses are huge! This was totally a shocker to a country already battling a failing economy.

    How to survive the Stress during Covid 19

    I have read various articles on how to combat the stress. They all talk about eating right, exercise, meditation and so on. These are important but, personally, I think we should look at the way we interact with others.

    Be there for each other and show compassion and kindness. There is way too much bitchiness and aggression towards each other. We after all in this together, fighting to stay sane and alive.

    By being kind to each other and pulling together you will lower your stress level and the people around you stress level. Spread some love and make each other happy. You will be amazed at how this makes you and those around you feel better.

    Just remember the social distancing and sanitizing.

  • Natural Treatment for Gout You Can Try At Home

    Natural Treatment for Gout You Can Try At Home

    This is my personal Natural Treatment for Gout that I have been experimenting with for a number of years. I had been suffering the excruciating pain since around my mid 30’s.

    This is by no means a medical remedy but it has worked for me. I have not had another attack of gout for approximately two years now.

    I suffered gout in both ankles and big toes on both feet. At times my ankles were swollen and red and I could not put any weight on my feet.

    These attacks would sometimes last about 2 weeks if left untreated and I just knew that once it started, it would spread to my other ankle and toes.

    I was put on Puricos pills but after a few weeks I really suffered from side effects like drowsiness, headaches and kidney pain. So I rather decided to look for a natural remedy.

    Moringa

    An old friend from the Air Force days suggested I try taking the natural Moringa Capsules. I started taking three capsules a day and could start feeling the effects after approximately 3 weeks.

    There was a definite improvement in my joints and I felt quite a lot healthier than before. My blood pressure, which I do take medication for, became much lower and stable.

    Natural Treatment for Gout

    The gout unfortunately did not disappear completely after using Moringa. I would still get the occasional attacks but not so severe as before.

    I started taking Cod Liver Oil capsules after a recommendation and this took the pain away in my shoulders which had been bothering me for years. So this was an added bonus.

    At night after supper I would drink a glass of water with Bicarbonate of Soda to lower the Uric acid in my body. But this didn’t seem to have any effect on the gout.

    Cancerbush Herbal Tea Sutherlandia frutescens

    My wife popped into our local pharmacy some time ago and was talking to the pharmacist about gout and joint pains. He suggested we try drinking Cancerbush Tea.

    To cut a long story short – its been approximately two years, drinking the Moringa Capsules and the Cancerbush tea, that I have never had another gout attack.

    I don’t consume much alcohol but do not eat very healthy. Too much red meat etc etc but never a pain in my joints again.

    This combination of Moringa and Cancerbush has really helped me with my quality of life and I can not stop recommending these two natural products.

    Whether it will work for everyone, I dont know but I do know that you should give it a go and see what it does.

    Please comment below if you have received any pain relief from the above suggestions or what has helped you in the gout struggle.

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  • NG Kerk in Reaper Street Farrarmere

    NG Kerk in Reaper Street Farrarmere

    I was a member of the Afrikaans Dutch Reformed Church (NG Kerk) virtually my whole life which started in 1963. Even though I didn’t attend many of the services over the last few years, the church had been an anchor in my life.

    My family had so much history that revolved around the Church. My Mom and Dad were married in the Church on 6 May 1961.

    I came along in June of 1963 and was Christened in the Church, attended Sunday School, which was quite a battle as I grew up English and went to English schools. This resulted in me being rather a quite chap during Sunday School Classes.

    I was confirmed into the church around 1980, I need to check the exact date and will update. After being confirmed my Dad and I decided to become more involved with the Church. My Dad became a Ouderling (Elder) and I a Diaken (Deacon). We did this for a number of years.

    It was in 1982 that I first saw the girl walking into Church one Sunday morning and I just knew that I had to get to know her. My Folks had seen me eyeing this girl and when we got home I realized that they knew who she was.

    After much begging and pleading I eventually convinced my Mom to tell me who she is. It turned out that my Parents and her Parents were actually friends. After a look into the phone book at the time and a couple of phone calls, I eventually got to talk to Tersia Maritz! Exciting times.

    So yep, the Church played an important part in what my life is today. We didn’t get married in the Farrarmere NG Kerk but in a Church in Pretoria as I was in the Air Force at the time and a member of the Pretoria “Gemeente”.

    Both our Sons were baptized in the Farrarmere NG Kerk. So you can gather that the Farrarmere NG Kerk was a huge part of my life and every time I passed the Church, while riding down Wordsworth Street I got fond memories of what was.

    It was with great dismay that I learnt that the Church Building was to be torn down and a bigger and I suppose “modern” one was to be built in its place.

    The day I took these photos of the broken rock that used to be so important in my life, tears ran down my cheeks. Makes one realize that nothing should be taken for granted and nothing lasts forever. We must cherish what we have now, in a second it could be gone.

    In short – the NG Kerk Farrarmere was the building block of where I am today with a Wife of 36 years, two awesome sons, an amazing Daughter In Law and two of the best Grand Children ever! Not forgetting a Loving Mother too! If it was not for her, I wouldn’t be here. Miss my Old Man more that I can express – Archibald Joseph Norval 15 April 1936 to 4 May 2015 R.I.P